Announcement

**SVT Lightning** · May 9, 2010, 08:39 AM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Originally posted by Precision View Post

Someone englightened me on this. I am thinking that married men tell this suggestion because once I am married, I can't do the stuff I used to do (correct me if I am wrong).

I do want to get married one day and have kids but I am not ready yet (in my very early 30s).

Precision

It's not that you can't do the stuff you used to do, your priorities change! You won't want to do all the "single" man things.

You summed it up right there...if you're not ready that means you know yourself well enough. When you meet the "right" lady, you will know it! Just don't rush into it. Get to know her and her family.....

**MrCLRider** · May 9, 2010, 08:41 AM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Hard to believe that being in your early 30's you haven't spent the last XX years doing all that you wanted to do.

Putting it off too much long will put you at being a old man when your kids are out of HS.

To me it sounds like you are being selfish, or assuming that the woman you marry will not respect things that you enjoy doing. Don't go into the situation thinking that your life will change so much. You will have to work around being married, but being married IS sharing your life with someone. I know a lot of married couples that enjoy doing a lot of the same things together, don't know why you can travel or go out with a wife. Sharing things with my wife is such a blessing for me, and its also nice having someone share the not so good times with too.

There are always going to be different opinions on being married. Those opinions about waiting are probably from guys that just aren't completely happy with their spouse. You need to make the decision for yourself to get married, do not do it by need or time frame. When its time for you to be married it will just feel natural and just happen.

**cnfowler** · May 9, 2010, 02:01 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Originally posted by MrCLRider View Post

Those opinions about waiting are probably from guys that just aren't completely happy with their spouse.

Bingo! I couldn't agree more. If someone was happily married and had a great life, why on earth would they say the shouldn't have gotten married? Why would they tell others to stay single? Doesn't make sense.

Because one is married and even has kids doesn't mean their life ends. They can still go an do the things they want. It just means they now have someone to do those things with. Sure, you won't be able to do EVERYTHING you did when you were single, but being married (and having kids) is about sacrifice. If you're not ready to make sacrifices in your life and with your time and money, you're not ready for marraige. Plain and simple. Don't rush it. Marraiges that are rushed or forced usually end in divorce. Not worth it.

Colin

**J. A. Michaels** · May 9, 2010, 05:21 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Being married is great. Having a family is the best thing in the world. It is great when you find the piece of the puzzle that completes you. All your wants and needs disappear. The goals and dreams you have are about your future together. Why wait. A wife and kids is a incredible journey.

**jenn1270** · May 9, 2010, 05:57 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

You don't get married just to get married. You get married because you meet some you want to be with. You CAN find girls that like football, drink beer, look as good in jeans as in a fancy dress, AND let you still hang with your guy friends. A secure woman will let you be yourself.

**Shack** · May 9, 2010, 06:40 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

A lot of great comments - and very accurate (especially the last one). I will say it is amazing when you find the one. I am on my second marriage. But I'm 41. Sometimes you don't realize how good things can be, without first experiencing how bad things can be. But - I will also say don't pass up on somebody because you don't know for sure if she's the one. You are getting older - and at some point you may just have to take a chance. And yes, your life will change. But it should, and you should want it to change. You'll know for sure that all is good when you want everything you have... and I'm not talking about material things. I could lose all the possessions I have right now, but I would still WANT everything I have... and hence, HAVE everything I want.

**TLMitchell** · May 9, 2010, 09:51 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

I say get a dog.

Posted on another Forum by Jon/togwt, seems approriate here.

Why Some Men Have Dogs And Not Wives:

1. The later you are, the more excited your dogs are to see you.

2. Dogs don't notice if you call them by another dog's name.

3. Dogs like it if you leave a lot of things on the floor.

4. A dog's parents never visit.

5. Dogs agree that you have to raise your voice to get your point across.

6. You never have to wait for a dog; they're ready to go 24 hours a day.

7. Dogs find you amusing when you're drunk..

8. Dogs like to go hunting and fishing.

9. A dog will not wake you up at night to ask, "If I died, would you get another dog?"

10. If a dog has babies, you can put an ad in the paper and give them away.

11. A dog will let you put a studded collar on it without calling you a pervert.

12. If a dog smells another dog on you, they don't get mad. They just think it's interesting.

13. Dogs like to ride in the back of a pickup truck.

And last, but certainly not least:

14. If a dog leaves, it won't take half of your stuff.

Ultimate True Test

Lock your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car for an hour.

Then open the trunk and see who's the happiest to see you.

**zeegs** · May 10, 2010, 01:00 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1LG_Neofn0

**Autobrite** · May 10, 2010, 06:20 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

+1 for Colin and J.A. My wife and children are the best things that have happened for me. Nothing beats a woman that will stand by you through thick and thin and support you in everything you do. However you must remember that you have to do the same for her as well. As far as not getting to do the things you want to than you are married to the wrong woman. Gotta find a partner and a companion that share the same interests in life. Just my 2 cents.

**paulcr39** · May 10, 2010, 09:01 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Originally posted by Autobrite View Post

+1 for Colin and J.A. My wife and children are the best things that have happened for me. Nothing beats a woman that will stand by you through thick and thin and support you in everything you do. However you must remember that you have to do the same for her as well. As far as not getting to do the things you want to than you are married to the wrong woman. Gotta find a partner and a companion that share the same interests in life. Just my 2 cents.

^What he said, spoken like a happily married man.^ I told my wife tonight that she completes me. She was what was missing in ky life through my 20's and early 30's. I'm sure Colin, J.A. and Autobrite know exactly what I'm talking about. I knew my girlfriend was THE ONE when I told her she had made forget all my previous girlfriends. They were then just a memory and I haven't looked back once these last 15 years. And Shack is right too: I could lose all of my possessions, but my wife and children are all I need in this life for happiness. Think I'm going to give them a big hug and smooch...

**Erik Mejia** · May 11, 2010, 01:06 AM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Marriage, and every other great relationship requires one very important thing to work (aside from the obvious love and loyalty stuff,) and that is great communication skills between both parties. I've counseled thousands of couples from all sorts of backgrounds, and the ones I've met all had one thing in common (crappy communication skills.) In my profession I've met and counseled more couples than I can remember, and they all shared that one flaw. Do yourself a favor and get yourself a lovely girl with the gift of gab.

**zeegs** · May 11, 2010, 10:48 AM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Relationships take a lot of work. The world has made it to easy to get out of one. There are always ups and downs, arguements, disagreements, etc. As Eric said communication is a wonderful thing. I just past my 28th anniversary and wouldn't change a thing. The rough patches make the marriage stronger. Don't think you can change her, and don't let her think that she can change you. Some things you'll enjoy together and some things you won't, it's OK, so long as you communicate that with each other.

**CaliKotse** · May 11, 2010, 11:30 AM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Guys and gals these are all great comments. I've been married for a year and will soon have a baby. I have to tell you that these are the best days of my life. My wife washes the car with me and would probably use the DA if it wasnt too heavy for her. I really cant explain it but doing little things with her just makes me feel like an accomplished man.

**Kornercarver** · May 11, 2010, 12:11 PM

Re: To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

I didn't get married until I was 37. However........once I met my best friend who has been my wife for the past 29 years, I have never been happier. The single most important thing is for a married couple to be best friends. We had a daughter 26 years ago and she is now a CPA with a Master's degree. Nothing makes me happier than my little family. And I still get to play with my cars and go to races and car shows. Life couldn't be any better................

Announcement

To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

To all my fellow "MARRIED" men.

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment