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    I'm sure this is a familiar story to many of you. At first, your significant other dosen't mind your interest in detailing. In fact, they encourage it. It's prbably for self serving reasons like having their car looking top notch all the time or getting you out of the house for a few hours so they can watch some god awful mind numbing dribble on TV.

    Then stage two kicks in. They become less supportive, but they don't say anything. They no longer compliment how great your cars look after you spend a whole afernoon fussing over them, but at least they don't complain about the time or money you spend on it either. In the middle phase of stage two, the silence continues, but somewhat disapproving looks start to creep in when the boxes from ADS show up. The more stuff there is in the box, the more disapproving the look you get as you unpack it, all the while smiling as you think how great your next detail will be when you use your new toys on the job.

    Stage three is where we're at my house right now. That's the time when your announcemnt that you need to order a few more things from ADS is met with a scowl, crossed arms and a very hostile sounding "And how much is all this going to cost?"

    "I only need a small bottle of 105 and some leather cleaner. Oh, yeah and a few more towels if I'm going to do the neighbor's Escalade."

    "I didn't ask how big the stuff is. I asked you HOW MUCH DOES IT COST?"

    "Probably about $25-$30 for all of it."

    "I will remember this the next time we go to the store and you ask me if I really need what ever extra things I decide to put in the cart."

    At this point, it feel like her eyes have turned into laser beams and you can literally feel your flesh starting to smolder and you can smell the stench of burning skin. A smart man would keep his mouth his mouth shut or throw in a "fair enough, honey."

    But no. We don't do that. All the hours spent breathing the pleasant scent of detailing chemicals and working with dressings in confined spaces have caused the little filter between our mouth and our brain to become damaged and we can't help it.

    We say something stupid in an effort to justify our addiction. After all, that's whay junkies do- they rationalize thier behavior. It's at this point we realize there is no turning back. All we can do is hope we don't go forward to stage four.

    Stage four is divorce. We fear divorce. If we get divorced, there's one less car we have to detail and we fear just for spite she might take half our detailing supplies in the settlement. At least if she does that, we hope she takes the crappy products we bought to try and didn't really like.

    So that's my story. I bet yours is similar...

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    lol i really liked this story..i went through that with my mother !!! hahahaha no seriously, i did..

    the more and more boxes from ADS were showing up, and all she would say is "how much is this costing you?" shes was always on my butt about that..but then i started detailing her car and all she said was "wow" do this every week. hahahahha..my gf on the other hand, been with her for 2 years..the only time she ever complains is if i go to do something to my car while im spending time with her (ive done that before) lol..other than that she doesnt mind one bit..if she calls me and i tell her im cleaning my car, she doesnt mind, in fact, she loves when the car looks hot. im hoping she doesnt get like your partner, then that would be bad ! but i hope she stays cool with it forever lol
    Addicted

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    • #3
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      I must be at stage 5, where it seems the future in-laws only want me to come over to get their glass clean....
      2017 Subaru WRX Premium - WR Blue

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        Actually, my wife is really pretty cool about all this, it was just her reaction tonight. She's a little miffed because I have only washed her truck once in the past month. Of course, it was in an accident on Xmas eve. Since it's headed to the body shop and they're going to have to repaint half of it, I figured a wax and polish job was a waste of time.

        After she saw how awesome my car looked after it was polished with 205 last week she was anxious to get her truck fixed and for the paints to out gas so I could take care of it. Of course, she's probably a little aggrevated because my car was wrecked a couple days ago and so we have no cars in need of detailing at the moment and I'm buying supplies to use on OTHER people's cars

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        • #5
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          Originally posted by Murr1525 View Post
          I must be at stage 5, where it seems the future in-laws only want me to come over to get their glass clean....
          That's the stage where they know if you're detailing their cars, you're not doing "other" things

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          • #6
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            I know the stages. I found this sentence works well.

            At least I am not going to bars.

            Takes the wind out of their sails. lol
            quality creates its own demand

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              My wife is now very pleased when i am detailing cars !
              When i first started detailing she was always moaning " what takes you so long,you spend more time with our cars then you spend time with me ".

              My answer to her was " no problem, from now on i will take both our cars to the carwash and after that i will go to see the footballmatch and hang out at the bar drinking beers with my mates ! Would you prefer that ? "

              Never had a complaint ever since

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              • #8
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                If exercised correctly, detailing is a healthy hobby.

                However, if it is a hindrance to your marriage, as in the case of Stage III you described, then you may have an issue that requires professional consultation. According to Divorce Magazine, over fifty percent of divorces are a result of personal addictions.

                Also, if you are at the point where your wife is sticking her nose into your personal life, then your marriage is also at risk. Unless your wife is the sole financial contributor of your family, she should have no authority to instruct you on how to spend a couple hundred dollars, let alone thirty dollars. Even if your wife contributes financially to the family, she should not have the right to intrude your spending behavior.

                How long has this happened for? You don't need to answer the question.

                I think your marriage is at risk. You should consider seeking professional help.

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                • #9
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                  My wife has no problems with me detailing. Infact, she encourages it. It brings in extra dough to take her out to dinner and movies all the time

                  I guess you just need to "make" time for her when she needs it, and then spend the rest of the time detailing. Let's face it, detailing is all our favorite hobbies, but it shouldn't be something to get in the way of your marriage or family.
                  2006 San Remo Red WRX TR
                  2005 Ford Ranger XLT

                  Detailers clean places nobody see. Detailer see's things nobody else see. But if you ask a Detailer to see how a dress looks on a woman, they are blind.

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                  • #10
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                    Great story william! Laughing the whole time reading it
                    ''USE THE LEAST AGGRESSIVE PRODUCT TO GET THE JOB DONE RIGHT''
                    You Don't Know What You Can Do Until You Try '' TECHNIQUE IS EVERYTHING''
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                    • #11
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                      lmfao i guess you just have to find a lady who also details or you could swing the other way to because there are a lot of guys on here who love to detail!

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                      • #12
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                        Stage two here.

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                        • #13
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                          What stage is it when you lose all your friends because you'd rather spend Saturday's detailing than on the lake?
                          -Kyle

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                          • #14
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                            That's called the "Just the Two of Us" Stage!! (you and your car!) haha
                            2011 Infiniti G37S 6MT
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                            • #15
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                              It is definitely a fine line between spending too much time to yourself and not having enough time for yourself. You just have to find a happy medium. I'm still trying to find mine.

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