It's like nothing else matters right now....

[TKDDAD]

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Nick, I'm just getting caught up on my MOL posts and came across this one...you have my heartfelt compassion when it comes to dealing with this...I am 51 and lost my dad when I was 15...my mom was blessed enough to find another man who treated her like a queen and remarried...he died of prostate cancer 10 years after they married...my mom, God bless her is still going strong at 89..so I guess I'm saying that I've been through what you're going through as have so many others...your mom will be in my prayers...life is funny sometimes - - - my 18 year old son made a comment to me the other night, he said, "Dad, you know, we come into this world with nothing and we leave it with nothing...what we do while we're here, that's what matters"...pretty cool coming from a teenager...and he's got a point...spend as much time with her as you can now...you'll both benefit from that...good luck....

[Bounty]

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Thanks guys!

She won't do Dallas or Houston. She's found a good Dr in Tulsa, which is about an hour and a half from their house. She trusts him, and I guess thats whats important. She's been a nervous wreck(for good reason) for the last couple of weeks. The surgeon has relieved her a bit, and she is starting to calm down now. It's been a rough time around here, lots of stuff crashing around our lives

[Nick Chapman]

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Sorry to hear that Nick. It is common for doctors to take a lung out, just like taking out a kidney, breasts, even portions of your liver, sometimes it's just amazing what the human body can endure. Quality of life won't be all that great but I think it would probably be better then what she is going thru now.
Were you able to get her down to Dallas? How is she taking all of this?
Keep us up to date and tell her we all give her best wishes for a speedy recovery!

Thanks guys!

She won't do Dallas or Houston. She's found a good Dr in Tulsa, which is about an hour and a half from their house. She trusts him, and I guess thats whats important. She's been a nervous wreck(for good reason) for the last couple of weeks. The surgeon has relieved her a bit, and she is starting to calm down now. It's been a rough time around here, lots of stuff crashing around our lives

[Underdawg736]

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Sorry to hear that Nick. It is common for doctors to take a lung out, just like taking out a kidney, breasts, even portions of your liver, sometimes it's just amazing what the human body can endure. Quality of life won't be all that great but I think it would probably be better then what she is going thru now.
Were you able to get her down to Dallas? How is she taking all of this?
Keep us up to date and tell her we all give her best wishes for a speedy recovery!

[Sal329]

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Nick I am sorry to hear about the news. I have been the opposite of you, I have los so many members of my family. All I know is it never gets easier but remember they are in a much better place and have nomore problems to deal with.

[akimel]

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How do they remove an entire lung, and still keep a fuctional life?

It is more than possible, Nick, for an individual with one lung to live well. It will take time for her body to heal and adjust. She may want to give up running any more marathons, though.

Do not give up hope. Medicine has made great strides dealing with cancer in recent years.

[MrCLRider]

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Your family will be in our prayers Nick.

[Nick Chapman]

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Well, just an update. My mom is being taken in for surgery on Monday June 8th. They will be removing her left lung

How do they remove an entire lung, and still keep a fuctional life?

[10degreesbtdc]

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I am not a strong person, especially when it comes to things like this. And you guys are not a bunch of strangers, I feel like I know some of you better than people that are here in my town.

I'm so sorry to hear of hers and your father's illness, Nick. Our hearts and prayers go out to them, to you and your families in this difficult time. I'm sure you have many friends here that you could call if you need to talk. We are here for you.

[Hemin8r]

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Hey Nick,

Sorry to hear about your mother. I really hope everything works out and she stays in your life much longer than anyone expects. I'm terrible with these situations as well. Quite often I think about what I would do if I lost either of my parents. It's really tough. Again, I hope for the very best!

[OhioCarBuff]

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Sorry to hear about the news. By the way check out a supplement called Co-Enzyme Q10, it has worked wonders for congestive heart failure patients

[Nick Chapman]

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Thanks for all the words guys! They are being read, every single word.

After talking with her more yesterday, she is available to come to Dallas for treatment, although she does want to see a specialist in her hometown first. My father, who is also going through some health problems of his own, can not be left alone for long periods of time. So she is going to do everything in her power to stay as close as she can to him. I never mentioned the problems with my father, as my mothers takes a higher priority at the moment. My fathers issues are serious and life threatening, but not as life threatening as hers.

I'm planning a visit up there next weekend(Mothers Day), and going to talk to her in more depth then. I'm hoping that I can convince her that Dallas care will be in her best intrest. I work for an airline, and she can fly for free back and forth from where she is, down here to Dallas. My father can also travel with her, but thats a whole other issue right there Trying to get him through the door on a plane, is like trying to thread a rope through a needle. He just doesn't care to get on a plane.

Anyhow, I'm happy she is being open minded about a Dallas trip, and when the time comes, I really hope she doesn't fight the issue too much.
Man, I guess I really never thought about loosing them. I'm sure it's always been in the back of my mind, but never once in my life have I ever thought about life without them. Reality really stinks

Thanks for everything guys!

Nick

[Andrew C.]

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I'm sorry to hear that Nick. Cherish the time you can with her. Nothing can ever take away the memories you two have of each other.

Take lots of photos and videos together so you can cherish you can have as many memories as possible to cherish.

[Nappers]

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Nick,

Keep her happy and visit her, call her as much as you can.

If you can't get away to visit, get her a computer if she doesn't have one and try a video conference with her (OOVU (sp?) comes to mind).

I am sorry to hear what has happened. My wife lost her grandmother whom she was very close to and it was a hard summer. She visited her and kept her happy and talked to her as much as she could.

I know you you're not asking for prayers, but you will get one from me tonight, for strength for your mom and dad, you and the doctors helping her.

Psalm 9:9
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.


My families thoughts and prayers to you and yours my friend!

Aaron and Family

[MyFirstES300]

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Nick, so sorry about your step mom. I wish you and her the best. Make the times you do have with her memorable and keep those memories close to your heart.